navelgazer: flibbertigibbet & noodler

darcie set up a little celebration of the long weekend from work:

: people who actually MAINTAIN their blogs (unlike some of us-- quelle notion).

my favorite thing lately is this low impact means of catching up with long distance friends via their delightfully unique/beautiful/hilarious blogging about kids and mates and other life stuff.

Jen's BabyX2: my tiny friend not only managed to carry to term and deliver two beautiful babies but also blogs about their developmental and fashion progress in typically hilarious style.

Sarah's Quince and Quire: Sarah, a poet and book artist friend, consistently renders and reflects on her life in gorgeous, precise, and lovely patterns and hues.

Wilson's Mate Expectations: an engaging and wryly honest narrative about coming to terms with the order in which life dictates events must unfold.

so today, while I was helping to get a laptop set up to project in the middle of a meeting with 5 or 6 vendors, the company president goes to me, "you look just like conan o'brien."

so I replied, "exactly what I was going for."

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I may need to send mr. o'brien a few shades of lipstick that would go well with his coloring.

I will find myself tossing, one side, then the other side, this position and then another, drifting off, dozing, only to jerk awake with a sharp intake of breath at some shapeless dreaming anxiety. who knows what parts it's due to, thirsty, having to pee, distracted by a change in the weather, blinds slapping against open windowframes-- but eventually I will quit fighting it, wake up, rise, wander the mostly-dark apartment aimlessly, picking up small things here and there, a glass, a plate moved from table to sink, stand staring in a doorway, wrap myself in a throw blanket and sink down on the couch, lie gazing up at moving shadows of tree branches cast across the wall by streetlights, listen to the base thump of a passing car or some random walker's laughter in the night... I think, ultimately, it has to do with the acute sense of life passing, simply and inevitably, right this instant, then this one, and the next, each and every and all of them leafing away and sinking without trace into the well of time-- and the overwhelming urge, desperation really, to do something, whatever, meaningful, resonant, actual, I don't know, just something that makes sense, that serves to tie those passing instants together, to weave them into a thread, wind that towline, and gradually drag myself back up from the vanished depths.

...voxish and otherwise-- just a big hello, really-- yodelling out confirmation that I'm still here, bumbling along in my navelly way. there are these times when I go to ground-- which is unfortunate as the tissues that connect us are altogether too diaphanous as it is. I have a bad habit of being an unreliable correspondent and regret the foundering of friendships as a consequence.

what gives on this end these days? ah, spring-- now summer, I suppose, though it's been far too chilly in chicago to really back up that claim. things I ought to be posting about, perhaps am in some alternate universe: our recent  weekend visit to the far north woods, new (to me) amazing book club!, looking around at apartments, considering possibilities for change.

sometimes the clutter, mental or physical, simply gets too much to bear. then what? for me it's important to identify what works and hold it in store for those moments when every nerve of self seems to be outlined and pulsing with red aggravation. this morning I'm managing it, just, with a cup of tea, a plushy blanket, and writing it out. other times a good stiff walk provides the necessary tonic. washing dishes by hand, folding laundry, and baking things all serve to settle and square me. it helps to have a certain spot, away from the rest of it all, ideally with a comfortable chair, good light, and quiet--a work table would be wonderful-- a place in which to reconstruct my peace, piece by piece.

it is perhaps a terrible irony, but I do believe that living in such close proximity, packed like cockaroaches right on top of one another, relieves people of their inborn civility. on a regular basis in this city where I am living I witness people commit flagrant acts of rudeness as if it were justified and pardonable-- from profanities uttered full voice through lowered car windows to gestural impertinences undertaken effortlesslessly, scooting up the ending, merging lane ahead of a waiting line of traffic, trusting to the goodwill or at least car-sense of others to yield to a forced last-minute merge. occasionally this sort of assholeish line-cutting will put me so altogether out of sorts and beside myself that I will creep along upon the bumper of the car ahead, refusing to give a single inch-- and then the entitled bastard edging in beside me, in his guzzler SUV, blatantly on his cell phone, wearing his too-joe-cool shades, will say, yeah this fucking bitch won't let me merge-- yeah, YOU, you bitch-- and I'll roll my window all the way down and scold him impotently for line-cutting-- I so badly want to shake my finger, school-marm style at him, and only just resist-- and drive on, feeling both irate and idiotic, flummoxed as to how I've come to this sad pass-- from peaceful days in iowa and north carolina-- what grisly feistiness this urban existence elicits in me.

I recently signed up for email updates from EveryBlock Chicago-- but the more I get these little bombs in my inbox, the more I consider the salutary wisdom of unsubscribing (and, frankly, I find the concept of "simple" assault or battery perfectly flummoxing):

Hello,

Here's all the news we at EveryBlock found around [my block] yesterday:

5 locations in the media

• 5000 N. Sheridan Road Uptown Quick Stop Robbed, 11:10 PM

  The Uptown Quick Stop at 5000 N. Sheridan Road in Chicago was just robbed (at 11:10 p.m.) this evening (May 4). Police, on scanner, say suspect is a male black who fled on foot in an unknown direction.

  Published by Chicago News Bench on May 5, 2009.

• Lawrence & Sheridan JJ Peppers Robbed At Gunpoint?

  "JJ Peppers (at Lawrence & Sheridan) was just robbed a gunpoint (Monday night). The robbery victim is losing consciousness so an ambulance is now required. The perps are three black males who fled to Lawrence and Winthrop."

  Published by Uptown Update on May 5, 2009.

• Lawrence and Winthrop JJ Peppers Robbed At Gunpoint?

  "JJ Peppers (at Lawrence & Sheridan) was just robbed a gunpoint (Monday night). The robbery victim is losing consciousness so an ambulance is now required. The perps are three black males who fled to Lawrence and Winthrop."

  Published by Uptown Update on May 5, 2009.

• Broadway and Clifton Supporting The Arts On Clifton

  Watch as this young man vandalizes a building at Broadway and Clifton.

  Published by Uptown Update on May 5, 2009.

• Kenmore and Lawrence Hookers & Crack Pipes & Slurs, Oh My!

  ...10 AM. I had just picked a newspaper and was walking past the corner of Kenmore and Lawrence when I was solicited by a woman I had never seen before. She was across...

  Published by Uptown Update on May 5, 2009.

12 crimes

• Assault
  • 4900 block N. Marine Dr Simple assault: Simple assault

    Place: Street. Reported at 11:40 a.m. on April 26, 2009.

• Battery
  • 4700 block N. Sheridan Rd Simple battery: Simple

    Place: Commercial / business office. Reported at 4:25 p.m. on April 26, 2009.

  • 5100 block N. Sheridan Rd Simple battery: Simple

    Place: Sidewalk. Reported at 1:17 p.m. on April 26, 2009.

  • 4800 block N. Broadway Simple battery: Simple

    Place: Sidewalk. Reported at 5 a.m. on April 26, 2009.

• Criminal damage
  • 5100 block N. Marine Dr Vandalism: Criminal damage to vehicle

    Place: Street. Reported at 10 a.m. on April 26, 2009.

• Criminal trespass
  • 4800 block N. Sheridan Rd Criminal trespass: To land

    Place: Convenience store. Reported at 9:31 p.m. on April 26, 2009.

  • 5400 block N. Kenmore Ave Criminal trespass: To residence

    Place: Apartment. Reported at 2:40 a.m. on April 26, 2009.

• Deceptive practice
  • 5300 block N. Broadway Deceptive practice: Credit card fraud

    Place: Restaurant. Reported at 3 p.m. on April 26, 2009.

  • 5300 block N. Broadway Deceptive practice: Credit card fraud

    Place: Restaurant. Reported at 3 p.m. on April 26, 2009.

• Narcotics
  • 1100 block W. Winona St Narcotics: Possession of cannabis, 30 grams or less

    Place: Street. Reported at 10:35 p.m. on April 26, 2009.

• Sex offense
  • 1100 block W. Berwyn Ave Criminal sexual abuse: Criminal sexual abuse

    Place: CTA train. Reported at 4 p.m. on April 26, 2009.

• Theft
  • 1200 block W. Carmen Ave Theft: Over $300

    Place: Street. Reported at 3 a.m. on April 26, 2009.

8 business reviews

• 5 stars out of 5: New 5-star reviews for Tweet and Cafe Too on Yelp.
• 4 stars out of 5: New 4-star reviews for La Patisserie P, Golden House Restaurant & Pancake House, Cafe Too and Pho Xe Tang -- Tank Noodle Restaurant on Yelp.
• 3 stars out of 5: New 3-star review for Cafe Too on Yelp.
• 2 stars out of 5: New 2-star review for Thai Pastry Restaurant on Yelp.

so it's one of those mornings: overcast, dragging-- I chew my way resignedly through a bowl of cereal because it is required, do the utmost minimum in the way of morning toilette and wardrobe, again simply because it is required-- grit psychic teeth and fight myself every inch of the way to get to and give up my day to the place of work because I must.  on the way in I decide, as unhappiness compensation, to treat myself to delicious $4 coffee beverage from the place located conveniently right near the workplace, suffer through the gratingly insistent jollity of the barrista (barristo?), sigh contentedly as I settle back into the relative peace of my car seat and savor the first sweet sip-- then have a single gulp more while driving the final yards, pull in, kill the engine, undo seat belt and open car door, lever myself up and out with coffee in hand-- and watch in slow motion dismay as the cup splats open against the parking lot pavement and glugs its contents in a chocolately pool across the tarmac and under my car.